Mommy and daddy dont get along.?

This sounds sticky and complicated. I think the mother should enter personal therapy. It might be expensive, but she could find some discounted or free rates at some local universities, and if she is a student, she can receive free therapy. This will help her control the emotions and manage the feelings surrounding this scenario. Another thought is to have a family therapy where everyone involved (specifically the mother and father) go and talk out their issues. From what you are saying, it sounds like the father is blaming the mother for his own mistakes. You are right when you say that the mothers these days have to take on a lot, and the fact he isn't helping out with taking care of his child, but instead is blaming her for his own shortcomings. I think the mother needs to stay strong and continue to do the right thing. It will take time to smooth things over with the father and the rest of the family members. However, as tempting as it is to get other family involved at this point, keep it between the mother, father, and child for now. All those relationships need to become amicable first, and mutual agreements made as to how everyone proceeds in the future. From there, the rest of the family can be smoothed out, but you have to fix the inside of the problem first before tackling the people on the fringes.